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As promised, to follow my earlier post 5 Things You DON’T Want in Your Bedroom, here are the 5 Things You DO Want to put special attention towards, to enhance the Partnership feng shui of your bedroom.
1. A Headboard
In feng shui symbolism, headboards represent support – that someone’s got your back. Make sure yours is solid (no bars/gaps), representing solidity in your support for one another.
2. Equally-Proportioned Night Stands
As headboards have symbolism, so do nightstands. Making sure that you have two – and that they’re relatively close to the same size is important symbolism of your partnership being equal. If you only have one, or one is significantly smaller, it represents an inequity in your relationship.
3. Luxurious Bedding
Don’t just throw any old ratty thing over the bed – in order to feel “in the mood”, you need sensual cues around you. Indulge your senses with a fluffy comforter, the softest sheets and comfy pillows.
4. Artwork Depicting Pairs
Provided that you display artwork at all in the bedroom (for some it’s the last room they put energy into decorating, which is dangerous) make sure your pieces depict pairs, as opposed to single things – like a solitary woman, animal or object. Paintings, sculptures and decorative objects with two reinforce the energy of partnership.
5. Candles & Other Romantic Touches
Candles are a no-brainer when it comes to enhancing a bedroom’s romance potential. But also consider incorporating things that have special romantic associations for you as a couple – photographs or mementos of a trip the two of you took, a painting of your dream vacation spot. Or enhance the romantic feel with a certain paint color, lighting, curtains, rug or other finishes.
This is your domain. Pull it together to represent – and fulfill – what you desire.
Since we’re getting close to V-Day, I thought it’d be fitting to offer some concrete advice on what can really hinder a love life: Certain things you have in your bedroom.
For romance and closeness to ensue, the bedroom space must be set up to encourage, not discourage it. In my post-to-come next week, I’ll point out some things you can add to encourage more of the lovey-doveyness you want, but in this post I’m addressing the things you need to get rid of first.
5 Things You DON’T Want in Your Bedroom
- General Clutter (boxes of stuff, misc odds ‘n’ ends, kids’ things, piles of books or clothes)
This is a big one, that a lot of people don’t agree with. 3 points: 1) The TV’s energy is an active energy that taps you into the world, which is counterproductive in a place where you need a private, quiet escape. 2) What you watch on the TV is generally not romantic, and you can take on the negative energy of disagreements, violence, tragedy, etc. 3) With a TV in the room, the focus can be on that, and not your partner.
Ditto above about the active energy in a place that’s supposed to be a serene haven. And ditto the distraction of the computer, which inhibits you from focusing on your partner. Also, taking the computer to bed blurs the lines of home life and work life, which can leave you taxed and over-extended. You partner can end up being resentful of the attention you pay an inanimate object.
Ditto all of the above about active energy, plus distraction – not good for coupling. Keep the phone out of the bedroom, and focus on your partner.
Paperwork does not belong in the bedroom. Each piece of paper is nagging you to do something…Call about me, deal with me, pay me! Not good to be nagged when you are trying to be intimate. Keep it in the office, kitchen command center, or if no other place, keep a file box in your closet.
Clutter not only pulls at our attention, as I mentioned with paperwork above, but it also drags us down. Take inventory of what you have in there, and whether it belongs. Ask, does this make me feel sexy? You bedroom should not be treated as a storage space. The clutter needs to be cleared out in order for you to feel free enough to do…whatever it is you want to do…